Loosing weight without restrictions

So i am trying to lose some weight and recently started a new physical activity too. My problem is food. I don’t want to « diet » and restrict myself because if i do that it is only going to last a few weeks before i go back to my old eating habits. I have been there, done that. I want this to be a lifetime thing.

The thing is, i enjoy eating « healthy » meals, vegetables and everything i love. But here and there i want to have pasta or pizza sometimes. I know that it is « allowed » to have those foods while trying to lose weight, but i feel guilty eating them. Same thing with snacks. After my meal i usually want to have something sweet but i don’t know if it’s okay to have it on a daily basis or is it « allowed » like maybe 2-3 times a week to have that donut or whatever. Is it okay to eat chips or a candy bar for desert everyday.

I have noticed that the more i restrict myself the more i want to have those foods. But if i « give in » to my desires i would eat ice cream after every meal. I don’t know if that is considered « okay ». Really having a hard here. I thought of counting calories but i find it a bit stressful. I would love to have some advice reddit

Loosing weight without restrictions