Skinny fat should I be in caloric surplus or deficit? What should I start?

So my height is 175 cm and my weight is 75 kg, my hip are very fluffy and my arms are quite thin. I can’t post my photo so imagine that.

I do not how to diet, never done in my life, never count calories, I tried but seems very very VERY confusing even with an app helping counting calories, maybe because I don’t have a nice feeling with foods.

I already avoid junk foods but I’m feeling that I eat more or I eat less. And I have a problem to drink more water… I just can’t struggle to drink more water.

I’m doing exercise as well.

So my question, that for you seems very easy and for me is frustrating, what should I start? If I’m skinny fat should I be caloric surplus or deficit? Is counting calories good or bad?

Sorry for English mistakes but I’m Italian…

Skinny fat should I be in caloric surplus or deficit? What should I start?